addl unit tests for PR #3970 (#3977)

* Add test_perf_accessors (to be merged into test_pytypes).

* Python < 3.8 f-string compatibility

* Use thread_local in inc_ref_counter()

* Intentional breakage, brute-force way to quickly find out how many platforms reach the PYBIND11_HANDLE_REF_DEBUG code, with and without threads.

* [pre-commit.ci] auto fixes from pre-commit.com hooks

for more information, see https://pre-commit.ci

* Remove Intentional breakage

* Drop perf test, move inc_refs tests to test_pytypes

* Fold in PR #3970 with `#ifdef`s

* Complete test coverage for all newly added code.

* Condense new unit tests via a simple local helper macro.

* Remove PYBIND11_PR3970 define. See https://github.com/pybind/pybind11/pull/3977#issuecomment-1142526417

* Move static keyword first (fixes silly oversight).

Co-authored-by: pre-commit-ci[bot] <66853113+pre-commit-ci[bot]@users.noreply.github.com>